20. #WhoAmI – a journey to finding roots, bonds and family connections at all stages of identity
How do adoptees cope with loss of identity and figuring out who they are?
In this episode, we chat to adoptee Lloyd about his experiences with adoption, the rollercoaster of emotions and eventually finding his birth family.
Having an understanding of where you come from can change your identity in a split second. We’re chatting with Lloyd about his experiences of rediscovering his full identity as an adult and the juggle to keep two families content when they met. Come and explore the topic further on Instagram at @hashtag_death
In this episode we cover:
- Split families and cross-country relationships
- Finding out about adoption
- Rethinking past incidents in new contexts
- Being told you are adopted
- A mixed reaction to the news
- Feeling foggy about the weeks after
- Pulling away while processing the news
- Using alcohol to self soothe
- Starting the search for a birth family
- Being blocked by old legislation and feelings of disappointment
- Excitement at connecting with his birth mother
- Realising the importance of family relationships
- Juggling two families wishes at once in an emotional meeting
- Carrying grief around
- Changes to a father-son relationship
- How being adopted shaped being a father
- Nature vs nurture
Resources and links mentioned in this episode:
- #Hashtag Death Instagram: @hashtag_death
- Ways to work with Ingrid: forevernow.com.au
- Ingrid Reiger’s Facebook: @forevernowcelebrant
- Ingrid Reiger’s Instagram: @ingrid_forevernowcelebrant
More about #Hashtag Death
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